Freelancing: What I Would Tell My Younger Self

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“Your first client doesn’t care about your degree. They care if you can solve their problem.”

Listen, I know you’re scrolling through LinkedIn seeing people talk about their “freelancing journey” and it feels like a whole other universe. Like, you’re over here trying to figure out your tuition payment or if your roommate is ever going to buy toilet paper, and they’re talking about passive income from Bali. It’s a lot.

But here’s the real tea: starting your freelancing side hustle with zero experience is not some mystical club. It’s a series of very un-sexy, very doable steps. And you can start right now, from your dorm room or your childhood bedroom, with the skills you already have.

I’m not gonna lie and say it’s easy money. But it is real money. And more importantly, it’s control. It’s saying “no” to that toxic part-time boss. It’s creating a cushion so you’re not sweating every single Venmo request. Let’s break it down, for real.

Freelancing Myth #1: You Need a Fancy Portfolio First

This is the biggest mental block, hands down. You think you need a sleek website and 10 case studies before anyone will even look at you. So you spend months “getting ready” and never actually start.

Girl, stop. Your first portfolio piece can be the project you did for your cousin’s small business for free. It can be the graphics you made for your campus club. It can be the essay you aced that shows you can write.

Clients at the beginning aren’t hiring a seasoned expert. They’re hiring someone reliable, affordable, and who gives a damn. Your “zero experience” is actually your secret weapon—you’re hungry, you’re fresh, and you’ll probably over-deliver because you’re trying to prove yourself.

💡 Quick Tip

Before you spend a dime, make 3 “sample” pieces for imaginary clients. Want to do social media? Make a 3-post grid for a local coffee shop. Want to write? Draft a 500-word blog post on a topic you love. This is now your portfolio. See? Done.

What Actually Works: The “Skills You Already Have” Audit

You’re sitting on gold and you don’t even know it. We’re so trained to think a skill isn’t valid unless someone pays us for it first. Let’s flip that.

Grab your phone and open your notes app. I want you to write down EVERYTHING people ask you for help with. I’m dead serious.

Do your friends ask you to edit their dating app bios? That’s copywriting. Did you organize the group trip and make the shared spreadsheet? That’s project management. Do you make those fire PowerPoints for class? That’s presentation design. Are you the one who always knows the latest TikTok trends? That’s social media strategy.

Your first freelancing gig is hidden in the unpaid labor you’re already doing for your friends, family, and clubs. Now we just need to package it and find someone who will pay for it.

💊 What Works: This super basic, no-frills notebook – I use it for my “Idea Dump.” Every time you have a skill thought, a potential client name, or a pricing idea, write it here. Getting it out of your head and onto paper is the first step to making it real.

Now, where do you find these first clients? The answer is closer than you think.

Your First 3 Clients Are In Your Network

I know, you’re cringing. “I don’t want to bother people.” Sis, you are not bothering them. You are offering a SOLUTION. Shift your mindset.

Look at your Instagram followers. Look at your LinkedIn connections. Who has a small business, a podcast, a passion project? Who just launched something and their graphics look… well, they could use help?

Do NOT send a generic “Hey girl!” message. Be specific. “Hey! I saw you just launched your candle line—the scents sound amazing! I’ve been working on my graphic design skills and noticed your Instagram feed could really pop with some cohesive templates. I’d love to make you a free sample post to show you what I mean. No pressure at all!”

See the difference? You lead with value, you’re specific, and you take the pressure off. Most people will say yes to free help. And if that free sample is good, you’ve just created a case study AND a potential paying client.

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The Truth Nobody Tells You About Freelancing

Okay, lean in. The hardest part isn’t finding the work. It’s everything AROUND the work. The stuff nobody glamorizes.

It’s setting boundaries with a client who texts you at 11 PM. It’s sending an invoice and having to follow up three times to get paid. It’s the tax stuff you have to save for (put 25% of every payment aside, TRUST ME). It’s the feast-or-famine anxiety when you have too much work or none at all.

This is the real work of freelancing. The actual skill you’re selling is just the ticket to get in the door. The business of being your own boss is the main course. And nobody is born knowing how to do it.

“Charge for your peace of mind. If a client is going to cost you extra stress, they need to pay for your therapy session, too.”

Let’s talk pricing, because this is where we get in our own way. You will undercharge. Everyone does. You’ll think “$50 is a lot for a graphic!” No. You are not selling a graphic. You are selling your time, your expertise, your software subscription, and the result that graphic gets them.

The Beginner Mindset (You, probably) The Boss Mindset (You, soon)
❌ “I’m just starting, so $20 is fine.” ✅ “My starting rate is $X because it reflects the value I provide.”
❌ Working without a contract because it’s “awkward.” ✅ Sending a simple contract (you can find free ones online) before any work starts.
❌ Saying yes to every revision and burning out. ✅ “My package includes 2 rounds of revisions. Additional changes are $Y per hour.”

This is the kind of stuff women talk about inside TechMae every single day. No judgment, just real ones keeping it real. How to send that awkward invoice, how to handle a difficult client, where to find free contract templates.

Related: This post is a must-read for women on their journey. Because you can’t build a side hustle if you’re running on empty.

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Start Here: Your 7-Day Freelancing Launch Plan

No more overwhelm. One thing each day. You can do this between classes or after your shift.

Why This Works:

✅ It breaks the mountain into molehills.

✅ You’ll have tangible proof of progress by day 7.

✅ Momentum is everything. Starting is the hardest part.

Day 1: The Skill Audit. Do the notes app exercise I gave you. Name your top 3 marketable skills.

Day 2: Create 1 Sample. Pick one skill and make one incredible sample piece for a fake or real local business.

Day 3: The 5-Message Outreach. Find 5 people/businesses in your network (Instagram, LinkedIn, local community) who could use your skill. Draft a personalized pitch for each.

Day 4: Send 2 of those pitches. Just two. Hit send and then close the app. Don’t obsess over replies.

Day 5: Set Your Rate. Research on platforms like Upwork or Fiverr to see what beginners in your skill charge. Then add 20%. Write it down.

Day 6: Create a Simple “Portfolio.” This can be a Google Drive folder link, a Canva PDF, or even a highlighted Instagram story. Put your sample and a short bio in it.

Day 7: Send 3 more pitches. You now have a sample, a rate, and a portfolio. You are officially in the game.

You might also love this article – one of our most shared. Because believing you’re worth paying is half the battle.

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