“I went in thinking I was helping them. I came out realizing they saved me.”
Okay, let me be real with you for a second. When I first started volunteering, I thought it was gonna be this boring resume builder that I could slap on my LinkedIn and never think about again. I was 19, broke, stressed about tuition, and honestly? I was doing it because my advisor said it would “look good.”
But girl. I was so wrong. Volunteering ended up being the thing that completely flipped my perspective on everything — my career, my money stress, my friendships, even my own self-worth. And I need you to hear this because I know you’re out here juggling a million things and wondering if you’re doing enough.
So pull up a chair, put your phone on Do Not Disturb, and let me tell you why volunteering might be the missing piece you didn’t know you needed.
Why Volunteering Feels Like a Waste of Time (Until It Isn’t)
I get it. You’re thinking: “I barely have time to do my laundry, eat a full meal, or sleep 8 hours. How am I supposed to add volunteering to my plate?” And honestly, that’s valid. I was there too. Between classes, that part-time job at the coffee shop, trying to maintain some kind of social life, and the constant pressure to figure out your entire future by age 22 — it’s exhausting.
But here’s what nobody tells you: volunteering doesn’t have to be this big, time-sucking commitment. It can be one Saturday a month. It can be a virtual thing you do from your dorm room. It can be something you do WITH your friends so it feels less like work and more like hanging out.
The problem is we’ve been sold this idea that volunteering is only for “good people” or people who have their lives together. That’s complete bs. Some of the most messy, struggling, figuring-it-out people I know are the ones doing the most impactful work. Because they GET it. They know what it’s like to struggle.
💡 Quick Tip
Start with just 2 hours a month. Seriously. Go on VolunteerMatch.org or check your school’s community service office. Pick something that actually interests you — NOT just what looks good on paper. If you love animals, go to a shelter. If you’re into literacy, tutor kids. Your passion will keep you showing up.
The Thing That Blew My Mind About Volunteering
So I started volunteering at a local youth center. I thought I’d be helping kids with homework, maybe playing some games, whatever. But what actually happened? I met this 14-year-old girl named Maya who was dealing with stuff I’d never even imagined at her age. Her mom worked three jobs, she was basically raising her little brother, and she still showed up every single day with this smile that could light up a room.
And I remember sitting there, complaining in my head about my 8 AM class and my roommate who never does the dishes, and I just felt this shift. Like, wow. My problems are real, but they’re also not the end of the world. Volunteering gave me perspective in a way no self-help book ever could.
It’s like when you’re so deep in your own head about a text he hasn’t replied to or a grade that wasn’t perfect — and then you spend an hour with someone who’s just grateful you showed up. It recalibrates your entire brain.
76% of Gen Z said volunteering improved their mental health — and 82% said it made them feel more connected to their community. Let that sink in.
How Volunteering Actually Helped My Career (For Real)
Okay, let’s talk practical because I know you’re thinking about your future. When I graduated and started applying for jobs, every single interviewer asked about my volunteering experience. Not my GPA. Not the random club I joined freshman year. They wanted to know about the time I organized a food drive or mentored a kid.
And here’s why: volunteering shows you have soft skills that classrooms can’t teach. It shows you can show up, be reliable, work with different kinds of people, and handle real-world problems. It shows you care about something bigger than yourself — and employers eat that up.
I literally got my first job out of college because the hiring manager said my volunteering at a homeless shelter showed “emotional intelligence” that other candidates didn’t have. I didn’t even put it on my resume thinking it was important — I just did it because I liked it.
📚 What Works: “The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown – This book helped me understand why showing up authentically (even in volunteering) changes everything. It’s worth every penny.
The Truth Nobody Tells You About Volunteering
Here’s the part that might make you uncomfortable: volunteering isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes you’ll see things that break your heart. Sometimes you’ll feel like you’re not doing enough. Sometimes you’ll question if you’re even making a difference.
And that’s okay. That’s actually the point.
The discomfort is where growth happens. It’s where you realize that your little world of exams, Instagram likes, and weekend plans is actually pretty small. It’s where you start to understand that everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. And it’s where you learn that you have way more to give than you think.
“I used to think I had nothing to offer. Then I spent one afternoon reading to kids at a library and realized my presence alone was enough.”
How to Start Volunteering Without Overwhelming Yourself
I know you’re probably thinking “okay, fine, but where do I even start?” Let me break it down for you in the simplest way possible.
First, figure out what you actually care about. Not what your parents think you should do. Not what looks good on a scholarship application. What makes you feel something? Is it animals? Mental health? Education? The environment? Food insecurity?
Once you know that, Google “[your city] + [your cause] + volunteer” and see what comes up. Or use sites like VolunteerMatch, Idealist, or JustServe. You can even filter by virtual opportunities if you don’t have transportation or want to do it from your room.
Why This Works:
✅ It takes the pressure off — you’re not committing to a lifetime, just trying something
✅ You get to explore what actually lights you up without the fear of failure
✅ It builds your resume AND your character at the same time
✅ You’ll meet people who aren’t in your bubble — and that changes how you see the world
And listen — if you try something and hate it, you’re allowed to leave. Not every volunteering experience is gonna be your vibe. That’s fine. Find another one. The goal isn’t to suffer through something you dread; it’s to find where you belong.
What Volunteering Taught Me About Money and Success
This is the part that really got me. When I started volunteering, I was obsessed with money. I thought success meant having a fat bank account, a nice apartment, and a job that paid me enough to not stress. And those things are fine — I still want them.
But volunteering taught me that success isn’t just about what you accumulate. It’s about what you contribute. It’s about the lives you touch and the difference you make in someone else’s story. And honestly? That feeling is way more fulfilling than any paycheck I’ve ever gotten.
I’m not saying go be a broke martyr. Please still chase your bag. But don’t let money be the only thing you’re chasing. Because when you’re 80 years old, you’re not gonna remember the bonus you got at work. You’re gonna remember the kid whose face lit up when you showed up.
The Community You Didn’t Know You Needed
Another thing nobody tells you about volunteering? The people you meet. I’ve made some of my closest friends through volunteering. Not through parties, not through classes, not through dating apps. Through showing up to do something meaningful together.
There’s something about working side by side with someone on a cause you both care about that builds a bond you can’t fake. You see their real self. They see yours. And suddenly you’ve got a whole new support system of people who actually get it.
This is the kind of stuff women talk about inside TechMae every single day. No judgment, just real ones keeping it real.
Related: This post is a must-read for women on their journey.
Start Here
Okay, so here’s your one clear action for today: Go to VolunteerMatch.org or Idealist.org and spend 10 minutes browsing opportunities. Don’t overthink it. Don’t pressure yourself to commit. Just look. See what catches your eye. If nothing does, try a different search term. Keep it light.
If you find something that sparks even a tiny bit of interest, send them a message. Just say “hey, I’m interested in learning more.” That’s it. No pressure. No obligation. Just opening a door.
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