“Sometimes the detour is the destination. And the silence is the loudest answer you will ever get.”
Sis, I know you are sitting there right now with a knot in your chest. Maybe you just failed a class you studied weeks for. Maybe your roommate said something that cut deep. Maybe you applied to twelve internships and got eleven “we went with another candidate” emails. And you are sitting there asking God, “What are you even doing? Do you see me? Do you care?”
I have been there. More times than I can count. And here is the thing nobody tells you about trusting god when everything feels like it is falling apart — it is not about having perfect faith. It is about having honest faith. The kind that says, “I do not get this, but I am not walking away.”
Let me tell you what I wish someone told me when I was 19, crying on my dorm room floor, wondering if I made the wrong decision about everything.
Why Does Trusting God Feel So Impossible Right Now?
Here is the thing about being a young woman in 2025. You are carrying so much. Tuition payments that make your stomach drop. Social media feeds that tell you everyone else has it figured out. Friendships that feel one-sided. Body image stuff that hits you at 2 AM when you cannot sleep. And somewhere in all of that noise, you are supposed to just… trust God?
Let me be real with you. Trusting god is hard when you feel invisible. When you have been praying about the same thing for months and the answer is still “wait.” When you see people who do not even pray getting the things you begged for. That is not a lack of faith. That is being human.
I read a study recently — yeah I actually looked this up because it hit me so hard — that 73% of young women ages 18-25 say they feel spiritually disconnected during major life transitions. 73%! That means almost three out of four of us feel exactly what you are feeling right now. You are not broken. You are not doing faith wrong. You are in a transition, and transitions are where faith gets stretched.
💡 Quick Tip
When you feel spiritually stuck, try writing down ONE thing you are grateful for and ONE thing you are struggling with every morning. No filter. No trying to sound holy. Just real. It rewires your brain to see both the hard and the good at the same time.
What Nobody Told Me About Trusting God in the Messy Middle
I remember my junior year of college. I had a plan. A good one. Internship lined up, graduation track on schedule, everything looking like those Pinterest vision boards. Then my mom got sick. My GPA dropped. The internship fell through. And I remember sitting in my car in the parking lot of a Target — of all places — just sobbing and screaming at God.
“I did everything right! I went to church! I prayed! I tried to be a good person! Why is this happening?”
And in that parking lot, I realized something that changed everything about trusting god. I was treating faith like a transaction. Like if I did A, B, and C, God owed me a smooth life. But that is not how relationship works. That is not even how friendship works. You do not love your best friend because they give you stuff. You love them because they are with you.
God is not a vending machine where you put in good behavior and get out blessings. God is the presence that sits with you in the Target parking lot when you have mascara running down your face and no idea what comes next.
Faith is not the absence of doubt. Faith is choosing to stay in the room even when you do not understand the conversation.
The Thing About Control (And Why You Keep Trying to Take It Back)
Okay, let me call you out a little. But with love, I promise.
You say you want to trust God. But then you spend three hours scrolling through your ex’s Instagram. You refresh your email forty times waiting for that job response. You text your friend “what do you think this means?” about a situation you already know the answer to. You are trying to control outcomes because control feels safer than surrender.
I get it. I do the same thing. We all do. But here is the truth about trusting god — it is not passive. It is not sitting on your couch eating ice cream saying “God will handle it.” That is avoidance, not trust. Real trust is active. It is doing your part and then releasing the outcome.
So you study for the exam AND you trust God with the grade. You apply for the job AND you trust God with the result. You set boundaries with that friend AND you trust God with the relationship. Trust is not the absence of action. Trust is action without attachment to the outcome.
📖 What Works: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer – This book changed how I think about spiritual rest and trusting God’s timing. It is not a quick fix. It is a slow, deep read that will rewire your brain. Perfect for reading before bed instead of doomscrolling.
How to Actually Practice Trusting God When You Are Anxious
Alright, here is the practical part. Because I know you are reading this like “okay that is nice but what do I DO at 2 AM when I cannot sleep and my brain is spiraling?” I got you.
First, stop trying to manufacture faith. You cannot force yourself to trust God any more than you can force yourself to fall asleep. The harder you try, the more anxious you get. Instead, start small.
Try this: For the next seven days, every time you catch yourself spiraling about the future, stop and say out loud, “I do not know how this will work out, but I am willing to be surprised.” That is it. That is the whole practice. You do not have to believe it. You just have to be willing to be surprised by God showing up.
Second, get specific about what you are actually afraid of. Most of the time when we struggle with trusting god, it is not because we do not believe God exists. It is because we are afraid God will not give us what we think we need. So ask yourself: What am I really afraid will happen? Write it down. Look at it. And ask yourself: Is that fear realistic, or is my anxiety making it bigger than it actually is?
Third, find one person you can be real with. Not the person who will quote three Bible verses at you and make you feel worse. Someone who will sit with you in the mess and say, “I do not know either, but I am here.” That is what community is for. That is what TechMae is for.
Why This Works:
✅ Speaking your fears out loud reduces their power over you by up to 40% — your brain processes spoken words differently than thoughts
✅ Naming the specific fear helps you see if it is realistic or if anxiety is blowing it up — most fears are not as big as they feel at 2 AM
✅ Having one honest person in your corner literally changes your nervous system — you feel safer, which makes trusting God feel more natural
The Truth Nobody Tells You About Trusting God and Still Being Confused
Here is the part that might sting a little. But I am your big sister in this, so I am going to say it anyway.
Sometimes you will trust God and things will still not make sense. You will pray, you will surrender, you will do all the right things, and life will still hit you with something that feels unfair. And that does not mean you did it wrong. That does not mean God abandoned you. That means you are in the part of the story where the hero does not know how it ends yet.
Think about any movie you have ever loved. The best part is never the ending. It is the middle. The part where everything is uncertain and the character has to keep going even though they have no idea what is coming. That is where growth happens. That is where character is built. That is where you discover who you really are.
And let me tell you something I wish I had known at 20: The things that made no sense in my life — the rejection, the closed doors, the heartbreaks — almost every single one of them turned out to be a redirection to something better. Not because life is a fairytale, but because trusting god means believing that even the detours have purpose.
“You do not have to understand the whole plan. You just have to trust the One who does. And sometimes trusting means taking the next step even when you cannot see the staircase.”
What Trusting God Looks Like in Real Life (Not Just on Instagram)
Let me paint you a picture of what trusting god actually looks like in your everyday life. Because I think we have this image of trust being this mystical, peaceful feeling where you float through life with a serene smile. That is not real. Real trust looks like:
– Sending out job applications even though you are terrified of rejection, and then closing the laptop and going for a walk instead of refreshing the page every five minutes.
– Having a hard conversation with your roommate about boundaries, and then praying about the outcome instead of rehearsing what you should have said.
– Looking at your bank account and feeling the panic rise, and then taking a deep breath and saying, “God, I do not know how this will work, but I trust you have not brought me this far to drop me now.”
– Deleting the dating app because you know you are using it to fill a void, and sitting with the loneliness instead of numbing it.
That is trust. Not pretty. Not Instagrammable. But real.
The One Thing That Changed Everything for Me
I want to share something personal with you. For years, I struggled with trusting god because I thought trust meant I had to stop feeling my feelings. I thought I had to be happy all the time and pretend everything was fine. And that made me feel like a fraud.
Then I read something that wrecked me in the best way. It said that the Psalms — you know, the songs and prayers in the Bible — are full of people screaming at God. “Why have you abandoned me?” “How long will you hide your face from me?” “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” These are not people with perfect faith. These are people being brutally honest.
And guess what? God did not smite them for being honest. God did not reject them for their doubt. God met them in it. That is when I realized that trusting god does not mean pretending you are okay. It means bringing your real, messy, angry, confused self to God and saying, “I do not get this, but I am still here.”
That is the kind of trust that lasts. Not the fairweather faith that shows up when life is good. The gritty, stubborn, “I am not leaving even though I do not understand” faith.
This is the kind of stuff women talk about inside TechMae every single day. No judgment, just real ones keeping it real. We do not pretend to have all the answers. We just know that we are better when we figure it out together.
Related: This post is a must-read for women on their journey. It talks about how the messy seasons are actually where you find yourself.
Start Here: One Thing You Can Do Today
I do not want you to finish reading this and feel inspired but overwhelmed. So here is one thing. Just one. Do it today.
Take five minutes. Set a timer. Write down every single thing you are worried about right now. Every fear. Every “what if.” Every thing that keeps you up at night. Do not filter it. Do not try to make it sound spiritual. Just dump it on the page.
Then, read it out loud to yourself. And after each one, say: “I am giving this to God. I do not know how it will work out, but I am choosing to trust.”
That is it. That is the practice. You might not feel different after. You might still be scared. But you will have taken one step toward trusting god instead of just thinking about it. And that is how trust is built — one small, imperfect step at a time.
Your Next Steps:
✅ Write down your fears — all of them, no filter
✅ Read them out loud to yourself
✅ Say “I am giving this to God” after each one
✅ Text one friend and tell them you are trying to trust God today — accountability helps
✅ Come back to this post when the anxiety creeps back — it will, and that is okay
You might also love this article — one of our most shared. It is about building a morning routine that actually works for your brain, not some influencer’s perfect schedule.
This Is Your Sign to Stop Doing It Alone
Women inside TechMae have been exactly where you are. They have cried in Target parking lots. They have questioned everything. They have struggled to trust God when nothing made sense. And they are still here, showing up for each other every single day. Come find your people. You were never meant to figure this out alone.
