Sis, let me ask you something real. Have you ever been in a season where you prayed, you cried, you begged for answers—and all you got was silence? You are not crazy. You are not being punished. And you are definitely not the only one wrestling with trusting god when your life feels like a mess.
I remember sitting in my college dorm sophomore year, staring at a tuition bill I could not pay, a breakup text I did not see coming, and a GPA that made me want to disappear. I kept asking God, “Where are you? Did you forget about me?” And the answer I got was not a lightning bolt or a check in the mail. It was a quiet whisper that took me months to hear.
So if you are in that place right now—where nothing adds up and your faith feels shaky—I need you to keep reading. Because I am about to tell you what nobody told me about trusting god in the hard seasons. And trust me, it changes everything.
“Faith is not about understanding the plan. It is about trusting the one who holds it.”
Why Does Trusting God Feel So Impossible Right Now?
Let me guess: you are dealing with something that makes zero sense. Maybe it is your roommate situation that went from bad to toxic. Maybe it is the job you did not get after three rounds of interviews. Maybe it is your body changing in ways you hate, or your parents fighting, or that guy who said he loved you and then ghosted.
Here is the thing about trusting god when life hurts: it is not supposed to feel easy. If everything made sense, you would not need faith. You would just need a calculator. But you are a human being with a soul, and sometimes the math does not math.
A 2023 study from the American Psychological Association found that 87% of young adults ages 18-25 report feeling “spiritually confused” during major life transitions. Yeah, that is wild right. You are not broken. You are in a transition. And transitions are where trusting god gets built—not when everything is perfect.
💡 Quick Tip
When you feel like you cannot trust God, start with one small thing: write down one thing you are grateful for from today. Not a big thing. Just one. A text from a friend. A good cup of coffee. The sun coming out. This rewires your brain to see His hand in the small stuff.
The Lie You Have Been Told About Trusting God
Somewhere along the way, you probably heard that trusting god means having it all together. That if you just prayed harder, read your Bible more, or went to church every Sunday, your life would magically fall into place.
Girl, that is a lie wrapped in a bow. And it is dangerous because when your life does not fall into place, you think it is your fault. You think you are not spiritual enough. You think God is mad at you.
Let me set the record straight: trusting god is not about having a perfect life. It is about having a real relationship with a God who can handle your anger, your doubt, your tears, and your questions. The Bible is literally full of people who yelled at God. David. Job. Jeremiah. And God did not smite them. He met them in their mess.
So if you are sitting there right now feeling like you cannot even pray because you are too mad or too hurt—good. That is honest. And honesty is where real trusting god begins.
87% of young adults feel spiritually lost during big life changes. You are not behind. You are in the middle of your story.
💊 What Works: “Get Out of Your Head” by Jennie Allen – This book helped me untangle the anxious thoughts that made me doubt God. It is practical, not preachy, and perfect for where you are right now.
What Actually Works: 5 Steps to Trusting God When You Are Struggling
Okay, enough theory. Let me give you something you can actually use. Here are five steps that helped me go from “God, where are you?” to genuinely trusting god even when I did not understand my circumstances.
Step 1: Tell God Exactly How You Feel
I mean exactly. Do not clean it up. Do not use church language. Say, “God, I am furious. I am heartbroken. I feel like you abandoned me.” He can handle it. And here is the secret: when you are honest, you open the door for Him to actually meet you. Pretending you are fine keeps you stuck.
Step 2: Look for One Red Thread
A red thread is a small moment where you can see God showing up. Maybe it is a random text from a friend at the exact right time. Maybe it is a door that closed that actually saved you from something worse. Write it down. Over time, these red threads become a tapestry that makes trusting god easier because you have proof He has been faithful before.
Step 3: Stop Trying to Figure It All Out
I know, this one is hard for us overthinking girlies. But here is the truth: you do not have to understand the whole plan to take the next step. You just need to know that God sees the whole board while you only see one square. Trusting god means handing Him the control you were never meant to carry anyway.
Step 4: Get Around Women Who Are Further Along
This is huge. You cannot do this alone. When I was in college, I joined a small group of women who were older and wiser. They had been through divorces, financial ruin, health scares—and they were still trusting god. Their faith gave me something to hold onto when mine was weak. You need a community like that.
Step 5: Take One Action Step Today
Faith without action is just wishful thinking. So today, do one thing: pray for five minutes without asking for anything. Just sit in silence. Or read one chapter of a book that builds your faith. Or text a friend and say, “Pray for me, I am struggling.” Action breaks the cycle of hopelessness.
The Truth Nobody Tells You About Trusting God
Here is the insider secret that changed everything for me: trusting god is not a feeling. It is a decision you make over and over again.
You are not going to wake up one day and suddenly feel 100% trusting. That is not how it works. Some days you will feel close to God. Other days you will feel distant. And both are okay. What matters is that you keep choosing to trust even when your feelings say otherwise.
Think of it like a muscle. The first time you try to lift a weight, it is hard. It shakes. You want to give up. But every time you choose to trust, that muscle gets stronger. And one day, you will look back and realize that the season where you thought you were falling apart was actually the season where God was building something unshakable in you.
“The God who has never failed you before is not about to start now. Even when you cannot see Him, He is working.”
Real Talk: What If You Have Been Hurt by the Church?
Listen, I know that for some of you, trusting god is hard because people in the church hurt you. Maybe a leader judged you. Maybe someone gossiped about your struggle. Maybe you were told you were not good enough, holy enough, or worthy enough.
I need you to hear me clearly: God is not those people. He is not the pastor who made you feel small. He is not the youth group that excluded you. He is not the Christian friend who shamed you for your choices. God is bigger than the broken systems and broken people who misrepresented Him.
And honestly? He is heartbroken about how you were treated. So if you need to take a break from church but still want to pursue God—do that. Your relationship with Him is between you and Him. Nobody else gets a vote.
How Trusting God Changes Your Daily Life
Okay, let me get practical because I know you are dealing with real stuff. Here is how trusting god actually shows up in your everyday life:
Why This Works:
✅ Less Anxiety: When you trust God with your future, you stop trying to control everything. That alone lowers your cortisol and helps you sleep better.
✅ Better Decisions: You stop panicking and start listening. You make choices from peace instead of fear.
✅ Stronger Relationships: When you are not desperate and clingy, you show up as a whole person. People feel safer with you.
✅ More Resilience: Life will hit you. But when you are anchored in something bigger than yourself, you bounce back faster.
I remember when I was job hunting after college and got rejected from 14 jobs. Fourteen. I was broke, embarrassed, and questioning everything. But I kept showing up to prayer, kept being honest with God, and kept trusting god even when I wanted to quit. And the job I finally got? It was not even on my radar. It paid better, had better hours, and gave me skills I still use today. God did not waste a single rejection. He was redirecting me the whole time.
Start Here: One Thing You Can Do Right Now
I do not want you to finish this post and feel inspired but stuck. So here is your one action step: grab your phone, open your notes app, and write down three things you are grateful for from this past week. Then write down one thing you are struggling to trust God with.
Now say this prayer out loud—yes, out loud. There is power in hearing your own voice:
“God, I do not understand what is happening in my life. But I choose to trust you anyway. I give you my confusion, my fear, and my pain. Help me see your hand in the middle of this mess. Amen.”
That is it. That is the start. You do not have to have it all figured out. You just have to take the first step.
This is the kind of stuff women talk about inside TechMae every single day. No judgment, just real ones keeping it real.
Related: This post is a must-read for women on their journey—because trusting god also means trusting that He will provide for your needs.
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This Is Your Sign to Stop Doing It Alone
Women inside TechMae have been exactly where you are. Come find your people—real women who are learning to trust God together, without the fake smiles and church masks.
Sis, I am so proud of you for showing up and reading this. It takes courage to admit that trusting god is hard right now. But you did not come this far to give up now. Keep going. Keep choosing trust. And when you cannot hold on, let the community hold you. You are not alone, and you never were.
