“Trusting God isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about choosing to believe in the Author when your chapter feels like a mess.”
Listen, sis. I know what it feels like when your life looks nothing like the vision board. When the scholarship falls through, the relationship ends, the job offer vanishes, and you’re left staring at the ceiling asking, “What is even happening right now?”
That feeling in your chest? The tight, anxious one that makes it hard to breathe when you check your bank account or think about the future? Yeah, I know that one too. And I’m telling you, the way out isn’t about figuring it all out yourself. It starts with trusting God in the middle of the confusion.
When Trusting God Feels Impossible
Let’s be real. “Just have faith” sounds cute on a coffee mug, but it feels useless when you’re crying in your car after a bad day. You’re praying, but the anxiety isn’t lifting. You’re asking for direction, but all you get is radio silence.
You see everyone else moving forward—graduating, getting engaged, landing their dream internship—and you feel stuck. You start wondering if God even hears you, or if you did something wrong. Girl, that’s the doubt talking. And it’s loud.
The problem is we think trusting God means we should feel peaceful 24/7. Or that if we trust enough, our problems will magically disappear. That’s not real life. Real trust is choosing to believe God is good even when your circumstances are trash.
💡 Quick Tip
When your mind is racing, try the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method. Name 5 things you see, 4 things you feel, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, 1 thing you taste. It pulls you out of panic and back into the present moment where God is.
Think about it. You can’t control your professor’s grading, your company’s layoffs, or that boy’s mixed signals. But you can control where you place your anchor. Is it in your own ability to fix everything? Or in something—Someone—bigger?
💊 What Works: “Get Out of Your Head” by Jennie Allen – This book isn’t fluffy. It gives you actual, neurological tools to stop the spiral of anxious thoughts and make space for truth. It’s like therapy in paperback form.
What Actually Works: The Trust Toolkit
Okay, so how do you actually *do* this? It’s not a vague spiritual concept. It’s a daily practice, like building muscle. Here’s the toolkit nobody handed you.
1. Audit Your Inputs. You’re scrolling for 5 hours a day comparing your behind-the-scenes to everyone’s highlight reel, then wondering why you feel insecure and like God forgot you. Of course you do! Start curating your feed. Follow accounts that encourage you. Listen to podcasts that build your faith on your commute. What you consume consumes you.
2. Practice Gratitude Like It’s a Job. And I don’t mean just saying “thank you.” I mean a physical list. On your notes app, right now, list three tiny things. The sun on your face. The fact you have a bed. That one friend who always texts back. This isn’t toxic positivity. It’s brain training. It shifts your focus from what’s missing to what’s present. And God is in the present.
3. Talk to God Like He’s Your Best Friend. Stop with the formal “Thee” and “Thou” if that’s not you. He already knows you’re pissed, scared, and confused. Tell Him. “God, I’m so angry this didn’t work out.” “I’m really scared about this tuition bill.” That’s real relationship. That’s where trusting God gets built—in the honest moments.
You Pray About 86% of the Same Things Every Day
Yeah, let that sink in. Most of our anxiety is on repeat. Money, relationships, purpose, family. Write down your top 3 recurring worries. Now, for each one, write down one small, actionable step you can take TODAY and then pray over that step. You’re partnering with God, not just dumping problems on Him.
The Truth Nobody Tells You
Here’s the insider tea: Sometimes, trusting God looks like stillness. And our generation hates stillness. We think if we’re not hustling, we’re failing.
But what if this season of “stuck” is actually a season of divine preparation? What if God is protecting you from a job, a relationship, or a path that would have hurt you? I can look back now and see so many “no’s” that were actually shields.
You’re not behind. I need you to hear that. Your timeline is yours alone. Trusting God means believing He’s orchestrating things you can’t see yet. The right connections. The hidden opportunities. The internal growth that needs to happen before the external promotion.
“Your waiting period is not a waste. It’s the workshop where your character is built for what’s coming.”
This is the kind of stuff women talk about inside TechMae every single day. No judgment, just real ones keeping it real.
Related: This post is a must-read for women on their journey.
Start Here: Your 5-Minute Faith Reset
Overwhelmed? Do this right now. It’s your reset button.
Why This Works:
✅ It gets you out of your head and into a place of peace.
✅ It replaces anxiety with a tangible action.
✅ It builds the muscle of trusting God in real-time.
Step 1: Breathe. Seriously. In for 4 counts, hold for 4, out for 6. Do it three times. You can’t connect with God if you’re in fight-or-flight mode.
Step 2: Release. Say out loud or write down: “God, I release [the specific worry] to you. I don’t know how this ends, but I trust you with it.” Name it to tame it.
Step 3: Receive. Sit in silence for 60 seconds. Just listen. Don’t force a thought. Often, the peace or the next small step comes in the quiet after the surrender.
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